Sex on the Brain by Deborah Blum

Even though this book was first published in 1997, I found that a lot of the information inside was still relevant and held nearly thirty years later when I decided to read it. I have found  that you can tell a book was well researched, and that the theories the author chose to discuss were founded on solid science, when the science is still being studied in the present and the theories are still being pursued. And that was certainly the case here.

This book touches on many different topics that relate to the biological differences between men and women. There are reasons why we are wired the way that we are. Some traits we have carried with us are no longer necessary, think about the useless appendix, and other traits have always been and may always be required for us to function. The author discusses such topics as why is morning sickness still a thing, gossip, the mystery of monogamy, the evolutionary theory as to why it is advantageous for all species to have homosexuality, and the reason why some hetersexual men get both angry and jealous of homosexual male couples. Really, this book has it all. There are two particular topics that I wanted to discuss with some depth as they are topics that I am always drawn to. And I chose these in particular because the author was discussing them back in 1997, and they are still important bits of science that those in the field are still considering today.

The author seemed to have really good intuition into what the future holds genetically in a passage discussing chromosomes. The X chromosome has most of the genetic code on it, around two thousand genes, whereas the Y chromosome has less than eighty.  It is widely known that it is the male’s genetic material which determines the gender of the child, women’s eggs are all X chromosomes and male sperm have either an X or Y chromosome. The Y chromosome mostly just exists as a signal to make the embryo into a male human. Without the Y chromosome, we would all be female. Scientists are currently trying to determine if a female’s bone marrow could be used to fertilize an egg, thus creating a human with the genetic contribution of two women rather than a woman and a man. If this is something that can be done, males will eventually become obsolete. Being a man does put you at a disadvantage genetically, and if in the future more people are more concerned as a society about producing a healthy child, then they might not want the option of having a male. If you are a woman and you inherit a bad gene on one X chromosome, but a healthy version of the same gene on the other X chromosome, you get the good one. The same is not always true for a man, if that gene does not exist on the Y chromosome then you get stuck with the bad gene. There are many disorders that are more prevalent in men for this reason. I found this extremely fascinating. 

Another topic that always captures my interest is body size in relation to male genital size. In species where the males are physically much larger than the females, you will see very small genitals. When the females and males are similar in body size, the genital size becomes more proportionate to that of the body. The topic was touched only briefly, but it was explained in easy to understand terms here. But I always find the theoretical discussions on this topic insightful from an evolutionary standpoint. I enjoy pondering the why behind the designs of animal forms. 

Besides the very entertaining biological content, I was really amused with the names of some of the people in this text. I found it hilariously coincidental that several people had names that suited their careers. John Wingfield, an avian biologist, and Marc Breedlove, a behavioral endocrinologist who studies hormones, just to name two. And as I have said a few times before, a non fiction book, regardless of the topic, is always much more pleasant to read when it is well written. The author had a sense of humor and was relatable. I like it when an author adds tidbits from their life that go hand in hand with what they are writing about.

Moody Bitches by Julie Holland, MD

If anyone has been wondering where I have been, although I highly doubt anyone has been worried over my disappearance, I moved and I have just been too busy to read or write for the past few weeks. I am finally settled in enough that I can get back to reading books and writing reviews for them. And hopefully I will be able to stay consistent with my usual weekly schedule. 

So, while I finished this book prior to my move, I have not had a chance to write anything until now. But I was so intrigued by the contents that it is still fresh in my mind. I enjoyed this book thoroughly, it was well written, absolutely fascinating, insightful, and full of very valuable knowledge that I will need one day. I already started implementing some changes into my life in the hopes of seeing some improvements in both my body and my mind. 

The subtitle says it all, this book will tell you everything you need to know as a woman, how you can make changes to improve your life now and how you can prepare for the future. There is abundance of information about hormones, how they fluctuate throughout the month, which ones make you frisky and which ones make you find sex unappealing, and what hormones you’re going to have more or less of as you age. It goes over what certain foods and beverages might be good or bad for you throughout your cycle and your life. Apparently, I need to enjoy coffee while I am young because I may need to steer clear of it as I get older. It talks about sleep, how much you need, the cons of napping, and what may be affecting your sleep (food, drink, alcohol, drugs, hormones, stress). If you have questions about your sex drive, chances are you will find answers here. There are discussions regarding the effect of drugs on the sex drive, including birth control and psychiatric medications. Having children and a career makes it very difficult for a lot of women to switch from mother/business woman mode to their sexual self, there are suggestions for what you can do to find that woman again. That is a general overview, it would be impossible for me to summarize this book, and I wouldn’t want to anyway. I believe that every woman should read this book. Why wouldn’t you want to know more about your own body? I also believe that men should read this book too. It would benefit any man that is in a relationship with a woman, understanding what they go through not just day to day but over the course of their lives would strengthen any relationship. 

I do want to give special attention to one chapter in this book, the one discussing perimenopause. I only heard this term very recently, but since becoming aware of it I have been very interested in learning more. Perimenopause is the stage that occurs before menopause, it can begin years before the female body is getting ready to enter menopause and it can begin earlier than you think, sometimes even in the late thirties. Menopause actually only lasts one day, and that day is the anniversary of your last period. Before that day comes, women experience irregular periods, hot flashes, and a slew of other unpleasantness. Knowing that perimenopause is coming, that it might be closer than you think, can enable you to prepare yourself for it. Knowing what you can do to try to make the inevitable changes easier for you is even better. 

I would also like to make mention of just a fun and thought provoking subject matter that was discussed a few times in the book throughout. Human bodies produce their own cannabinoids, the molecules get pumped into production during times of stress. Besides cannabinoids being effective in calming you down, they also regulate your metabolism. You wouldn’t think so, but people who partake in cannabis regularly have smaller waistlines than those who don’t. So if you do smoke or ingest recreationally you don’t have to worry about the munchies affecting your weight. 

Well that’s enough praise from me. Woman, man, or anyone in between, I highly recommend reading this book.

The One by John Marrs

I cannot find the right words to express to you how much I enjoyed this book. I feel like it has been a while since I found myself looking forward to spending all my free time reading. I finished this in less than three days, beginning the book on a Sunday, reading during my lunch hours at work on Monday and Tuesday, and picking the book back up as soon as I got home. I put off chores, cooking, eating, and even showering, all so that I could reach the end of this novel.

This story follows five different people, each of them in a different situation with their ‘one’. In this reality, science has discovered a way to help you find your perfect match. It turns out that there exists a gene within the human DNA that is the counterpart to exactly one other person. If you meet this person you are struck with an overwhelming sensation of joy, desire, and completeness. Meeting your one is followed by such strong feelings to be with them that it often ends existing relationships. Even just being aware that you have a match can make you doubt any certainty that you are truly happy with your current partner, if you have one. And knowing that there might be a match out there for you could make you reluctant to even consider dating anyone else. But matches aren’t always who you expect them to be. Sometimes people from other sides of the planet are matched, sometimes the people are decades apart in age, and sometimes your match ends up being of a gender that you have never been attracted to. Finding your match isn’t always a dream, sometimes it can end up being an absolute nightmare.

I wish I could read this book again for the first time, and that is praise that I do not hand out very often. I don’t even remember where I heard about this book, but I am glad that I finally bought it and decided that it needed to move to the top of my pile. The book also happens to have been developed into a show, which I am not incredibly interested in watching. If you aren’t much of a reader, maybe watch the show. If it is anywhere near as good as the book then I’m certain it has the potential to be very enjoyable. 

A Brief History Of The Female Body by Deena Emera

I read this book in tandem with the last book I posted about, and if I were a sex education teacher or a professor of human sexuality I would include both of these books on my mandatory reading list. I would put this book at the very top of that imaginary list, as I found it very easy to read and well written, especially for a text that educates so well. I am always appreciative of a text that is educational but also entertaining. Are You Coming? was more of what I would call fun educational, A Brief History Of The Female Body was more evolutionary and theoretical educational. I read so many fascinating things that I was happy to feed my brain.  I feel a little bad for my friends, I was so enthusiastic about certain theories that I started talking at length about them. I think I may have bored them a bit with my nerding out. 

So I guess that is a good way to segue into what I found so amazing about this book. Are you interested in reading about some of the theories that try to determine why human females are the only mammals that have breasts year round, not just during pregnancy and breastfeeding? This is the case with all other mammals, what makes us so different? Or, do you want to learn about why we are one of the few species that menstruates, and so frequently at that? These are just a few of the topics that I found myself mesmerized by. The other topics covered in this book include pregnancy, and everything that goes with it, child rearing, diseases, menopause, and love and bonding. The beginning is a little heavy on chromosomes, genetics, and evolution. It can be reminiscent of high school science class but it was much more enjoyable than classroom learning. There are also some nice illustrations that I found very helpful, as trying to visualize what the author was describing was not easy at times. 

I love that professionals in the field are getting even more involved in studying the female body. From what I have been reading, for a long time scientists thought that they knew all they needed to know. But there are still many, many mysteries when it comes to the female reproductive system and other bodily functions and body parts that are particular to the female. I look forward to hearing more about it from both this author and others. 

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

This is not a one time read, this is a book you keep on your shelf in plain sight because until you grasp all the concepts, and are practicing them regularly, you both will and should continue to go back to it. It is not the most engaging read, I had to tell myself I wasn’t done for the day unless I finished a chapter. But, it is full of advice and lessons that you can use daily. You won’t become an expert after one read, that is made plain and clear, these habits take time and effort to master. 

I did take a lot of notes while I was reading and I used a lot of post its to mark sections that intrigued me or spoke to me. I do not see myself practicing all of the habits in this book, I do not aspire to become a master of the seven habits, but I do see myself using bits and pieces as a means of self help. I loved that there were a lot of charts, diagrams, and visual examples throughout, they definitely made understanding the concepts much easier. I also loved the many stories the author referred to. It was very fitting, using his real life experiences as a way to teach us about the seven habits. I feel like without these true stories the book would not have been as effective or made as much of an impact as it would have without them. I greatly appreciated the author telling his personal stories. 

I’m not going to explain any of the habits to you, you can only truly learn them and how they can help you if you take the time to read about them for yourself. It would be impossible for me to summarize the contents of this book to anyone, it is vastly informative. But, I can say that I can see this book being good for a lot of people. If you are having problems at work, with family or friends, with your life partner or children, or if you are feeling lost, unmotivated, unsure of what to do, there are solutions for how to deal with all of these issues.